About solicited mails and a custom
I subcribed to updates from some sites out of curiosity or short lived interest. I still keep getting mails from them. Well they are just doing their job.
They actually also have a link that says click here if you wish to unsubscribe.
But I don't unsubscribe. I hover over that line for a second. 'Feel I am somehow betraying them. and I don't click!
When I get a mail from them, I raise my eyebrows and say, Not this one again!
I dont read the mail.
This reminds me of the arshina-kunkuma visits. Down south, ladies are invited to neighbouring houses on festive days. This is a short non-eating happy cultural meet. Ladies dress up in finery. Sit around for some time. Sing a song if possible. Then the host offers haldi kumkum and flowers and a tambula. The done thing is to give coconuts as tambula. Coconuts have become too expensive and they have been replaced by the rolling mosambi. You go to your neighbour's house. Sit there for a short time. They give you kumkum and tambula with a mosambi. So you go to the next house and you think, not a mosambi again!!!
You bring them fruits home and they roll around on the dining table. They might even move to a bowl on the fridge. No one wants to peel them. No one wants to have them. Yet when its your turn to give, you look at the prohibitive cost of the coconuts and resort to the mundane rolling fruits!
I just need to unsubscribe.
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| tambula - watercolour |
This is a traditional thambula.
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The thing about Tambula- Mosambis, coconuts, blouse pieces, sarees of some unwearable material we receive at weddings, haldi-kumkum in plastic packets etc, are that the giver knows that we are not going to use it. While accepting it we also know that we are not going to use it. Then we invite people over for arshina-kumkuma and pass it on further knowing well that the receiver is also not going to use it and will further give it someone else... its the unwritten code of tambula.
ReplyDeletean entire industry is based on people passing on things to each other without using any of them!! visit 4th block during a festival and u will see atleast 20 people trying to sell to you things that you will not use but you will happily gift with tambula! :)
ReplyDeletewhy make a mockery of a few people of good
ReplyDeleteintentions?!