Teenager and Parent

Last week I had a distressing encounter with a teenager and his parent.


The parent loves his son deeply. 
He is paranoid about what the world will do to him.
He keeps him close to his chest.
He does not permit him to play after school.
He wants to scrutinize every friend of his.
He agonizes over the many avenues of harm.
He bans going out of home after school.
So... He is tense and kiddish.

The teenager is pushed to the wall. He is callous and stubborn.
He has lost his self-respect.
He has lost his physical fitness.
He is a drowning man thrashing out at the confines.
He is rude to his parent.
He resorts to violent behaviour.
He stays away from home, overnight.
He is sulking and adultlike.

They cannot handle him, so they resort to white lies.
I will be back in 10 minutes they say, and return after 2 hours.
I cannot afford the cell phone they say, and buy some gold.

The teenager spots the lies. He loses faith in himself, in the future and in ever being worthy of love.
A teenager is a young adult. Respect his individuality. That is the only way he will learn to respect yours.

If you are the parent: learn to trust in the values that you have passed on. Consult with family and friends.
If you are a teenager: learn to express your thoughts openly, without anger and without tears. That makes them sit up and listen.

I wonder who began the concept of Terrible Teens.
I would rather call it TREMENDOUS TEENS for that is when you get closest to your kid.


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Samsara guttu, Vyadhi rattu.
Family matters a secret, diseases revealed and shared.
sometimes human behaviour becomes disease like. It must then be treated so, shared and consulted about. and solution found.
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